I think the problem with non-lasting love is that we define "love" in general by the verb "I own".  It starts with I don't own her/him. How can I do to make this happen? So we try to get in touch, be noticed, we act like our best selves so that we trap that person. Slowly we sweep them off their feet until there is no way back and the web is all around our victim.

But owning is objectifying. They become our accessories that have to please us. They become our little canary that we place into this gorgeous gold cage, and that has no rights but the ones we decide they have. Then we claim it not to depreciate: it should look, act, function the same way as the day we met them and when we projected all those marvelous dreams along their side.

Most of the times...much to our surprise...this does't work.Then we are either hurt because we lost  ...IT or we get bored. And how can we not get bored? Especially in this age of ever rapid changing technology, when our brain is set to ask for immediate, quick fixes? Our loved one gets old, repetitive and so damn predictable. They get broken, downgraded...And isn't it expensive to keep buying another one, and another one in hope we finally get the best model?

So what if we stop wanting to own them? What if we just lease them on their spear time? What if we let them update on their own and then try their constant improved versions of themselves? What if we stop being afraid of not being interesting enough for them to come back? What if we are both free and not owned by anyone? What is the worst thing that can happen?